When we run away from something we often get lost.
Whether it’s an unwanted situation, convictions that no longer make sense or an unhealthy condition in our social life, the urge to want to get away often precedes the longing to embrace something new. That’s when we may end up becoming emotional, spiritual or even literal runaways; closed off, lacking faith or simply gone.
But fleeing is only part of the solution. It’s like going from A to Nothing, instead of going from A to B. And that’s when we go missing; feeling empty, alone or insecure, lacking a sense of belonging or having no where to go. It’s unhealthy for us to wander around aimlessly.
We need something to head towards in order to find ourselves again. Or to not loose track in the first place. Don’t loose yourself in half a transformation. Always make sure your change is complete. To do that it’s important to find yourself a goal, a healthy situation to aspire towards, a new basis for you to stand on.
Being on the run may leave us with a reluctance to look back and an inability to look forwards. Its state of mind can make us pass up on opportunities that come our way, like an unstoppable train passing through a town, without stopping to see if it has what we’re hoping for. Looking beyond that state of mind requires the intention and the will to do so.
And look beyond it you must. Examining what you left behind can tell you where you want to go; in other words, by mirroring what you hate you can discover what you love. Life sometimes teaches us hard lessons this way. And without the necessary study, you may never learn. Thus, look back in order to look ahead. And make sure to go that way.
Stop yourself from being forever underway and find yourself a destination. Find something to believe in, embrace new values, seek out wisdom, interact in healthy ways, open up for new people in your life, find something to care for or make peace with what you left behind. No matter what you choose, stick with it and run towards it. The choice itself will already bring relief, but in the end it will also take you to a new place to call home.
A philosophical dreamer with a passion for self-reflection and contemplating life. He’s serious about helping people with the insights he gathered, but playful in the way he communicates his wisdom. He left a career as environmental engineer behind, in favor of becoming a personal development coach and thought-provoking writer.