Don’t project your fears from the past onto your current status quo.
Fear has a way of carrying itself over into new situations. It makes us perceive new conditions as equally scary and with it, the way we respond to them. And it’s exactly our fear-based behavior that transforms a new situation into the same experience we had before.
If you don’t consciously do something about it, you may end up going from one frightening scene to the next, for as long as you live. So find the courage, and insight, to properly deal with this repeating pattern.
It starts with understanding your situation. Know that your present day reality itself isn’t the cause of your fear, but its echoes from the past only make you perceive it that way. The realization that fear isn’t real can help you find the trust you need to break free from it.
And breaking free is done with how you respond to the world. Basically, people will react differently when you fear them than when you show trust in them. You can effectively change the interaction by acting in another way. To do that, courage is needed. You have to start doing the things fear makes you not want to do. Just know that with each act of bravery you will become more courageous. The first steps are often the hardest. I dare you to take them.
Change the fearful future, that awaits you when you don’t break the habit, into a future of trust and confidence. And allow yourself the time to do so. Trust and confidence, like al things that matter, need to gradually grow. One day you will have created for yourself a new pattern of trust, because, just like fear, trust, once found anew, also carries itself into new situations.
|Jerry CorstensA visionary dreamer with a blind passion for self-reflection and contemplating life, a self-proclaimed philosopher with poetic ambitions. He’s serious about helping people with the insights he gathered, but playful in the way he communicates his wisdom. It made him leave a career as environmental engineer behind, in favor of becoming a personal development coach and thought-provoking writer.|