We often consider some aspects of our existence as being good and others as being bad. But in reality it’s not these aspects themselves that are good or bad (for us), but the way we handle them.
Like pride for instance. It’s not a single condition that is or is not; it’s different for everyone and in every situation. It’s has a spectrum. And in the middle of that spectrum there’s a healthy range. Being proud of yourself for the right reasons, allowing yourself to feel good about yourself, is in the center of it.
Outside of that range, on either side, there’s an unhealthy range. On one end there’s not having any pride, causing a low self-esteem, and on the other side there’s false pride, causing a false sense of us or our views being better than (those of) others.
To simply consider all pride to be bad or sinful is closing us off from that healthy range, unintentionally blocking one of many little paths leading to an overall state of well-being.
The challenge is not to overcome pride all-together, but to get and keep it within that healthy range of self-respect and respect for others. For some that means they must learn to tone down their self-importance and for others it means they must learn to boost their self-esteem. Both are equally challenging for their own unique reasons.
The more aspect in life we’re able to get within their respective healthy range, the more balanced and delightful our lives become.
Are you within your healthy range when it comes to pride? Or when it comes to forgiveness? Are you too forgiving or not forgiving enough? Do you have an unhealthy way of getting attention or don’t you ask for it at all?
Concerning which aspects in life would you like to reach a healthy range? Share in the comments below and lets discuss.
A philosophical dreamer with a passion for self-reflection and contemplating life. He’s serious about helping people with the insights he gathered, but playful in the way he communicates his wisdom. He left a career as environmental engineer behind, in favor of becoming a personal development coach and thought-provoking writer.