Looking at Both Sides
Everything has two sides; both a bright side and a shadow side. But when we look at something we seldom look at the full picture, and get lost in only a partial view instead.
And on top of that we often tend to see the positive side of something we’re part of and the negative side of something that belongs to others. It’s like us having two near identical orbs – one is mine and one is yours – and me perceiving yours as black and mine as white, and you seeing just the opposite, simply because I see mine in the light and yours against the light and vice versa.
This happens all the time, all over the place, with whatever you can think of. We do this with cultures, scientific theories, political parties, religions, ideologies and even on a personal level. This create a “mine is better than yours” attitude in everything we do, and it’s dividing us on all levels, rather than bring us closer together.
As human beings we always like to express the beautiful side of what we do and easily forget to look at the ugly truths. Everything therefor sells itself in a positive light, and when we can’t see any dark elements, we easily buy into it. And especially when that selling is done against the backdrop of the dark side of the other party, it appears brighter than it really is, and we will certainly be sold.
In this way, the choices we make on a personal level are always more or less made for us by external influences, because of the way they advertise themselves. When we are presented with “the right way”, many of us will embrace it without further inspection.
This is also why the shadow side of things are allowed to fester and grow. When corrupted elements within a system or personality are left unchecked, they will spread like a rotten spot on an apple, further decaying over time. That’s when the need for overselling the favorable side of what we chose to be part of becomes a necessity. Selling it to others is a way of selling it to ourselves.
There is however an alternative. Contemplate the full scope of everything you embrace (or are about to). Apply the focus on the dark side of the opposition to your own cause instead. Leave other people’s choices for them to inspect and fully focus on your own.
In the end, this is the only way for us to determine whether something is black or white; whether it is healthy for us or not. As long as we don’t fully think for ourselves, more and more malign matters will creep into our lives, simply by presenting themselves as something beneficial.
Once you are able to see everything in the world as complete onto itself, as opposed to a reality created out of only separated bright and dark halves, you can begin to distinct the truly right ways from the pretended right ways, and navigate yourself to them.
It also helps to become more open to other people’s points of view, because once you are able to see your orb as a whole, including its dark side, you can begin to see other people’s orbs as a whole as well, including their bright side. The conclusion of that might be that what they do might not be all that different from what we do, and that we are all looking for the same things in the things around us.
A philosophical dreamer with a passion for self-reflection and contemplating life. He’s serious about helping people with the insights he gathered, but playful in the way he communicates his wisdom. He left a career as environmental engineer behind, in favor of becoming a personal development coach and thought-provoking writer.