When you alter your approach towards others, they will alter their approach towards you.
This is true in a general fashion. In specific situations it may not always seem to be so. And since specific situations are right before our eyes, while general change is something we need to keep our eyes open for, it can be hard to see this principle as being true. In general, we can always find specific instances in which something isn’t the case. Learn to look beyond them.
When you change your overall attitude, you will change the overall response you get from your surroundings and from the people around you. But it takes time.
Even if you were able to bypass the development process all change has to get through, you are still faced with the history of what you did. People have come to see you in a certain way and they have based their overall behavior towards you on that view. They won’t change it because you do something different once. It takes time and consistency to get people to see you in a different light and to get them to treat you differently.
So for a while, you will still have to face their old ways while you pave a new path through life. After all, it wasn’t their decision to change; it was yours. They are in the back seat, while you are driving the car. And when you let your drive diminish because of what you see in the rear-view mirror, you can’t go to where you want to be.
So, don’t stop. Keep going. Be more positive towards others and keep at it; someday, slowly and gradually, they will respond in kind. Building yourself a new reputation won’t happen overnight. Take the time to change, but also take the time for others to change in response to it.
|Jerry CorstensA visionary dreamer with a blind passion for self-reflection and contemplating life, a self-proclaimed philosopher with poetic ambitions. He’s serious about helping people with the insights he gathered, but playful in the way he communicates his wisdom. It made him leave a career as environmental engineer behind, in favor of becoming a personal development coach and thought-provoking writer.|